Everyone has their own preferences when it comes to dating and relationships. Some prioritize looks, others value personality, and some prefer connecting with someone less intelligent.

In a recent confession shared by @twtsecretsmy, an anonymous woman (let’s call her Syafinaz) opened up about her struggles with her boyfriend’s ideal preferences in a partner.

Syafinaz and her boyfriend Suffian (pseudonym) have been together for two years. She describes Suffian as a nice, good-looking, and financially stable man who always takes her on dates and cares for her when she’s sick. Overall, he emotionally and physically takes care of her. However, despite his prince charming qualities, he has very specific ideas about his dream girl.

“He has a weird fixation on women with fair skin and a slender physique, whom he defines as ‘beautiful.’ While he rates me as an 8/10 for my decent looks and slim figure, my skin isn’t exactly fair.”

Since breaking up with his ex-fiancée, Suffian has been unsure about who the right person is for him. He often notices fair-skinned women and finds their complexion attractive. Additionally, he’s not keen on discussing marriage, citing his past engagement breakup as the reason for his hesitation.

“Since ending his engagement, he’s been uncertain about who’s right for him. He mentioned focusing on his career and seems unsure about marriage now. Interestingly, he used to be the one asking about marriage, settling down, and he even met my family a few times.”

Despite acknowledging Syafinaz’s qualities as a good decision-maker and appreciating her thoughts and reliability, Suffian still refuses to marry her. To add to her confusion, he complimented her intelligence but also expressed a preference for someone less intelligent, believing it would be easier for him to manage.

“He said he wants someone who relies on him completely, so if he messes up, she has no choice but to stick around. Funny enough, he’s also complained about dating people he thinks aren’t smart. He can’t even make up his mind about what he really wants, which makes him seem kinda clueless.”

Syafinaz keeps wondering if he’s just keeping her around as a safety net, feeling exhausted and realizing that walking away and starting fresh wouldn’t be simple for her.